‘God made dirt, dirt don’t hurt.’ It’s a saying that I’m sure we’ve all heard so many times! But, my reply every time I hear it said, “Well, God made rattlesnakes. And rattlesnakes WILL hurt!” Nevertheless, it is very true that you shouldn’t be afraid to work hard and get your hands dirty. In my family, mud and dirt has NEVER been a problem. And no, I don’t mean, ‘It’s never been a problem, we stay out of it.’ I mean, ‘We’ve never had a problem playing and working IN the mud and dirt.’ Some of you are probably cringing and crying right now… Sorry. We’ve always loved being outside and working with our hands. I walked outside a few weeks ago to see a huge mountain of dirt in the middle of one of our gardens. Turns out, the ‘three little musketeers’ had built a huge castle and dug a moat around it. It was so adorable to see them working so hard on it. I’m so glad that my siblings can always turn everything into a great adventure! They always have so much fun. And they look pretty cute while doing it too!
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Scrolling through Facebook I came across an article that caught my attention. Scientists that have studied married couples for 4 decades to figure out why some marriages work while others fall apart (either ending in divorce or living in misery) have come to a conclusion. By scientific, I mean the whole deal: thousands of couples, multitude of researchers, electrodes hooked to the brain kind of science. Guess what they found… couples that are kind to each other are the happiest.
Now, I’m not trying to steal anyone’s thunder here- but have you read your Bible lately? I promise it won’t take you 40 years, doesn’t require a master's’ degree, and you won’t need any electrodes!
We could use many examples, but let's just look at one.
We really could apply this to any relationship. When we live according to God’s Word things work out. Obviously it takes two, and I’m not disputing that. So to clarify, if both parties involved are kind to each other there is a happy marriage, happy siblings, happy in-laws, happy co-workers, happy people in the world. So basically all I am saying is that we could obtain world peace (if every person in it followed God.) But let’s start here: Be ye kind one to another. Commanded in the Bible and proven by science!
When our first child came I was blessed more than I had ever imagined. Through the years there has been one song that comes to mind every time I think of her and my wishes, hopes, and aspirations for her life. Written by the Epley’s, here are the words to the beautiful song “All We Ask.” Cynthia- this is our prayer for you!
The years have flown by much too fast.
The days we have now are our last
Soon you’ll be gone and life won’t be the same.
We’ve tried to do our best for you.
Sometimes we’ve failed; we know it’s true
But still we pray that you’ll live to praise God’s name.
It doesn’t matter if we never see a place you’ve carved in history.
Fame is fleeting and riches soon will burn.
The only wish we have for you,
Please follow Him Who’s always true.
You will find you have so very much to learn.
And if some day you hear His voice
Calling you to make a choice to serve Him in a land that’s far away,
We’ll remember you’re not really ours at all.
You belong to Him; so heed His call.
That’s the reason that He made you anyway.
All we ask is that you live for Jesus!
We’ve tried to give you roots, and soon we’ll give you wings.
Fly toward the Lord!
Honor Him in all you do.
We’ll be so proud of you if you live for Him.
We’ll be so proud of you if you live for Him!
These 15 years have brought the greatest joy of my life- and I am thrilled to look forward to see the next 15 as our oldest daughter continues with a heart towards God! She has become so much more than I could have hoped for. Her servant’s heart and strong spirit have inspired me. God has brought us through so many things, yet He has always shown Himself present and able to much more than we could ever ask or think. And our children have been able to see the hand of God guiding and helping us along the way- which has only made their faith stronger. I am thankful that through my faults, Cynthia has seen that we must keep our eyes on the Lord.
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As I drove through the city a few weeks ago I noticed something that strangely disturbed me. I started to notice this almost everywhere I went. I would bring my children to a nearby park, playground, lake, you-name-it outdoors… and I would find the same thing everywhere.
Something is taking over our playgrounds. It is all over our state parks. Have you ever driven slowly past a beautiful flowing creek glimmering with sunlight between the trees? It’s there too. The sad part is- we can all do our part to prevent this, yet many times we just don’t. It is so easy to become caught up in our daily lives that we just brush this aside and hope someone else will deal with the problem. Yet it affects each one of us.
We just have too much to do. I know the feeling… The laundry is never done. Homemade meals take time, effort, and make a mess! Taking care of a house is more than a full time job- not to mention homeschooling the kids, or helping them with homework, being active in your church, focusing on your marriage, plus trying to make a little extra money to help make ends meet!! We can so easily become stretched to our limits just keeping up with daily life.
Yet so many are struggling to find a balance between productivity and peace. Keeping busy does not automatically mean we are making the most of each moment. In fact, many times it does the opposite. We can convince ourselves that we are so busy that we just don’t have time for anything else- when the best thing we could do for ourselves, our family, and our walk with the Lord is to just STOP. Believe me- the dishes, the laundry, the emails… they will wait for you.
Are you seeing what I am seeing? Emptiness. Empty park benches. Empty trails. Empty streams. Empty swing sets. Empty slides. You name it… it’s empty. As for playgrounds- I cannot tell you how many times I’ve brought my children and we are the only ones there. As for the hiking trails… it seems there is some understanding that they are for two groups of people: the dog walkers, and the fitness gurus. I’ve got nothing against dog walkers and have a great respect for people who take good care of their bodies- but where are the rest of us?
We are cowering behind a massive wall of fear and excuses. -I’ve got too much to do! -It’s too cold outside! -It might rain! -Just one more load of laundry! -Maybe we’ll go on Saturday or Sunday! And on and on the list goes…. The internet is overflowing with websites and blogs about saving money, fighting depression, cheap activities to do as a family, date nights, quiet time with God, etc., yet the beautiful outdoors is just on the other side of our front door. Look through your car window see the beauty of the quiet stream just blocks from your house. Can’t walk much? Find a park bench. Got kids? Hit the playground! Need some time alone? Sit by the lake.
I could cite several studies I have read on the positive effects the outdoors has on our minds and bodies, but I will challenge you to make the choice to add a daily routine to your own life and find out for yourself! I know from having a dog that taking a few minutes a day to play fetch will cut behavioral problems to a minimum… yet do we think of applying that to children? Take a group of kids on a hiking trail or to a stream and see how much it affects their behavior. You might be amazed! Walk away from all the white noise generating in our technology filled houses and listen to the water rushing through the rocks from just the tiniest stream of water!
And I know we could go to our own backyards- many times that is just what we need to do. But I have found for myself that I just have too much to do in my own home to stay home without getting those things done- so for me sometimes I need to hop in the car and get a few blocks away. Leave the cell phone in the van and walk away for a while. Don’t worry, when I get back home… everything is still there!! Have I wasted my time? Not in the least. The moments, the memories, the time enjoying the beauty God has given us and the people God has placed in our lives and all around us are worth every moment we spend soaking it all in.
How about you? Do you see an empty place that you can fill? Have you listened intently to a stream or watched a chipmunk scurry among the leaves? Have you left behind your phone and focused on those around you? Don’t let emptiness invade our parks, our trails, our beautiful places that God has provided for our rest and refreshment. Take it all in. Little pieces at a time if you have to. But don’t be part of the emptiness.
Living our life to please the Lord definitely brings the most fulfilling and wonderful life we could ever experience. The joys of knowing Christ and following Him are far greater than the sorrows that would trouble our soul as we wondered what could have become of our life through Christ. There is truly “no greater joy” than to see our children walk in truth. So… why do we sometimes feel like we are in this all alone?
This world is a big place- and with social media swirling all around us it is easy to see so many go astray and standards dropped by the wayside. It is easy to sometimes wonder if we are the only family left adhering to old time convictions. The world is changing- and changing fast. I remember taking multiple steps to be connected to the “world wide web” and getting my free yahoo email address. Now I have children who can swipe through a smartphone or laptop to search for a recipe, buy a new dress, find the right R.C. battery, or register online to go to camp!
Yet, Jesus Himself prayed for us. Not that God would take us out of this world, so we would be physically separated; but that while we live in this world, He would keep us from the evil. We are to be spiritually separated. In John 17:15 Jesus prays, “I pray not that thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that thou shouldest keep them from the evil.” Though we are told to “come out from among them and be ye separate…” God knows that we still must dwell in this world. Clearly there are thing in this world we are not to have a part of. We are here to be the salt and the light, to live for Jesus, glorify Him, and share the gospel so others may also come to know Him as Saviour.
As we draw lines in the ever shifting sand to keep our life separate from the worldliness that surrounds us we can feel like we are all alone. While we like to think our convictions are firmly set in the Rock- we would all be greatly surprised when we look at what the born again believers of past generations were convicted over. John Bunyan was convicted over spending a little time on a Sunday afternoon to play a game of ball. Many old time books speak out against visiting a carnival, fairgrounds, or circus show. Even just a generation ago it was common for born again believers to take a stand against movie theaters, television in the home, or mixed swimming.
Christian, do you have a line that you must not cross? Our lives are to be a living sacrifice. Is there a sacrifice in your life today? Are you striving to follow God and obey His commands? (Even if it seems a little strange in the world around you?) Do you realize the importance of guarding what enters into your eyes and ears? Oh yes, the things we see and hear do affect our thoughts, words, and actions. Maybe God has been speaking to you about an area of your life that you need to give up for Him. Maybe it doesn’t make sense to the world around you. Maybe it doesn’t even make sense in your Christian circle.
Elijah took a great stand for the Lord when he spoke against Ahab and Jezebel. At the end of a great victory he felt defeated. He felt alone. He felt unworthy. He really thought he was the last man standing for God. Yet God came and spoke to him, comforted him, fed and strengthened him. And what was the message of encouragement? He was not alone. He was not the only one left standing for God, serving the Lord, doing the RIGHT thing. God let him know before He was done speaking with him, “Yet I have left me seven thousand in Israel, all the knees which have not bowed unto Baal.”
Friend, you are not alone. Just as we do not know the sin that may be hiding in someone’s life- we also do not know the sacrifices. God has many children -following Him -loving Him -serving Him. Any yet there is so much more to do! We are to be LIGHT! Our life is to be shining for Jesus like a city on a hill pointing heavenward glorifying our Saviour! I was so blessed this week to get a phone call from a dear woman in her sixties and she was just waiting to see what the Lord has next for her. She wants to keep serving Him. There are mothers in homes right now teaching and training their children in the way God would have them to go. There are women in the work force abstaining from the worldliness and fleshly lusts of their coworkers. There are young girls keeping themselves pure as they serve God from their homes and families until it is their turn to embark out on their own journey.
You are not alone. We are not alone. We each have a place to fill. The only true pleasure we will find in this world is in a life wholly given to the Lord, holy, acceptable to Him. Do not waste it away in worldliness. Do not listen to the devil’s lies. Pray to God as you draw your mark in the sand for Him and determine to glorify Him in each area of your heart and life.
Twelve years ago we were blessed with our second little bundle of joy! Our first surprise with Mary was that her two feet came out kicking!! It was almost 20 minutes later before her head got loose and she was out and breathing!! That is one morning that many of us will not forget. She was a blessing from the very beginning- a very happy baby, loved to smile, and almost slept the first year of her life away!!
It was just three years later... not quite... when she seemed to come down with pneumonia. She was getting very lethargic and our pastor said we'd better get her into the Emergency Room. Little did we know that night of November 30th, 2006, that we would not be heading home again until July 11th, 2007. Home just in time for Cynthia's 6th birthday the next day. Our baby boy arrived to a home where he had not been since he was just 3 weeks old. We were happy to back with our family together- and with our Mary home. She could not even get herself onto the couch yet... but we were home!
Mary has a rare disease called Langerhans cell Histiocytocis. And though she looked like the happiest and healthiest little girl around- jumping on the trampoline, riding her red tricycle, and singing Jesus Loves Me- silently, the histiocytes were terrorizing many organs in her body, even until her lungs were almost nonexistent. Here is a brief excerpt from her carepage:
Mary was admitted to Hershey Hospital Dec. 1, 2006. She was diagnosed with Langerhans cell Histiocytosis and immediately started on Chemo. Her lungs were so destroyed from the disease. Soon she was in intensive care. She was put on life support, completely sedated for almost 6 months. During this time she had 24 chest tubes, a couple cardiac arrests, and was on the edge of life and death every minute. Eventually the chemo did stop the Histiocytosis and she woke up, rehabilitated, and came home July 11, 2007. The Chemo continued until October of 2008. October 2009 the Histiocytocis is active again. Please pray with us for our little "Miracle Mary."
As we were finishing up our supper the other night- our 4-yr-old son said excitedly, “Daddy, can you tell us the story about when Jesus explodes the world with fire and we can play with snakes!!”
Apparently, as our 2 boys rode home from church on Wednesday night in Daddy’s big truck he was explaining a bit of end times prophecy- maybe to answer a few questions they had about the message.
We did get a good laugh out of the innocence of our son’s excitement over a big explosion and playing with snakes!! Sadly though, the reality is that it will be a very terrifying time as the end draws nearer.
Children are interested, and children are imaginative. So, where do we draw the line in teaching the Bible or answering hard questions?
The Bible tells us over and over to tell our children, to “teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” Some of it they will understand now- and some of it they will understand later. But as parents, grandparents, teachers, and mentors we must speak of these things. They must know these things are true and God will keep His Word. They must know that the Bible is our authority on how we live and what we believe.
I am glad my son knows that Jesus is powerful enough to explode the whole world- yet kind enough to let the children play with snakes and lions safe and unharmed.
My husband is quite the adventurer. I have to admit... if it weren't for him I would spend most of my life just staying within my comfort zone. Yet he has taught me that without taking the adventure- we miss out on so many wonderful things in this life.
Paul took this photo of our oldest son fishing off an island one night while they were out past sunset.
They watched the sun go down, and headed home safely in the dark- with wonderful stories to tell!!
Looking through some old photos I was reminded of how my boys have always loved to work like daddy. They had a way of always finding the sharpest tool in the toolbox- or carrying around the heaviest hammer they could find!! I remember when my oldest son built his first “birdhouse” all by himself… okay… so it was 6 pine boards nailed flat together… but to him it was a birdhouse. And it brought joy.
I will let them bang the hammer into the dirt. And as they grow, let them pound 15 nails into a board and show me what they “built.” Let them get cuts and bruises from playing with the tools. Because someday I will look them in the face eye to eye and see that they have grown to be men like daddy.